Hello ^.^
This is irrelevant to my blog but I've got 3 hours to kill in Costa with a Chaii Latte and my laptop so I thought I'd come have a little chat with you.
I'm thinking about creating a series of Chat with Coffee here on my blog where we discuss certain subjects and you can respond with your opinions and views in the comments.
Today lets talk about views and opinions. To be more specific sharing them with other people.
Okay so the other day I was hanging out with some friends say about 9 of us all together. 6 of them where either racist, homophobic, sexist or prejudice against something of the sort. I honestly have no idea why I spend time with them because they're so ignorant and small minded but other then that they're good people.
Myself and my two friends are massively against all this. Especially one of my friends, who is mostly against homophobia, and myself, who I'm massively against any type of prejudice/discrimination/scapegoating.
Anyway so the 6 boys would keep making racist or homophobic comments (usually on purpose to piss me off as they know I will react of it) and each time I'd give them a good reason to shut the f**k up as well as my views on the matter. I will
always start of in a regular tone of voice and without swearing, simply giving my opinion. But come on, that never works. Especially with me as nobody ever seems to take me seriously unless I'm all worked up and yelling it from the roof tops.
So as these comments keep coming and they carry on with their disgusting views and I begin to get more aggressive and pissed off to the point where I'm on the verge of crying. My friends no longer stick up with me and tell me to just stop pointing everything out. How can I stop "pointing out" such views and opinions that are the reason our society is getting bombed. The reason our society is in so much pain. The reason our society isn't equal. And because my friends tell me to "shut up" and "stop giving us your opinion it's getting annoying now" and the most common one... "stop being so argumentative". Argumentative? I'm simply debating our different opinions and views. Is that really being argumentative? What do you think?
It got to the stage where if I opened my mouth, whether I was going to give my opinion or simply make conversation as they were, then they'd tell me to shut up and say some sarky horrible comment to shut me up. I lost 2 friends that evening. (I mean we're okay now, but just that evening)
I've been brought up to debate. It's what me and my parents do on a regular basis and I find that wonderful. My mum is catholic and my dad is atheist and I'm planning on beginning Buddhism so we're all very contrasting in our views. My mum holds a lot of belief whilst my dad is very scientific. We pass round great opinions all the time and it helps us to understand each other. Yes occasionally we do get worked up if someone isn't being open minded but usually it all works out great. I can't help but pass my opinions on this especially when I'm a very opinionated person. However at the same time I can understand both sides of the argument, or at least try to... most of the time. Unless you're view is that all Muslims are terrorists and all black people are immigrants here to steal our jobs or you're using "gay" or "lesbo" as an insult or you find bisexuals or pansexuals or omnisexuals "confused" or genderfluidity and agender and bigender and transgender are all fake. Then I will find your opinion unvalid and stupid because of how narrow minded you must be to believe such a thing. When really all humans are equal no matter what your skin colour, religion, sexuality, gender, identity and whatever else. Society just pushes certain groups up and certain groups down to try hide the fact that really we're all level.
Do you debate your opinions, views and beliefs often too? Do you find it gets in the way of friendships sometimes? Let me know what you think about this in the comments and I'd love to get back to you.
~ Happy Lil Plant Life
